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You: You have a boyfriend? Well, I have to admit I'm
disappointed, I have to respect that you're in a
relationship. But let me ask you a question. How
surprised would you be to FIND YOURSELF ACTUALLY
LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING A LITTLE TIME WITH ME? I
mean maybe to the point where you could IMAGINE US
OVER COFFEE, LAUGHING AND HAVING THE BEST TIME, and
you starting to FEEL REALLY COMFORTABLE WITH IT? As
you THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THAT, doesn't seem natural to
meet like Monday or Tuesday for coffee?
Hot and Horny On The Phone
Note: This pattern is to be used after you've fucked her or at
least made out like crazy. It's meant to be left on her
ANSWERING MACHINE, and it's a good example of using our other
favorite weasel phrase, "What's it like when?".
You: (after her machine picks up). What's it like when
YOU'RE SO ATTRACTED to the sound of a man's voice,
that whenever you FIND YOURSELF REALLY LISTENING, it's
like THE WARMTH OF THAT VOICE JUST STARTS TO WRAP
ITSELF AROUND YOU, and SPREAD ALL THROUGH YOUR BODY,
maybe to the point where you FIND YOURSELF THINKING
ABOUT BEING WITH HIM IN A ... MMMMM ... SPECIAL WAY,
in a way that would make you both feel ... mmmm, you
know? ... So much so that those pictures in your mind
GET BIGGER, AND BRIGHTER AND MORE INTENSE, and those
FEELINGS ... MMM ... INTENSIFY you could just
EXPERIENCE AN OVERWHELMING DESIRE TO BE WITH HIM ...
to the point where you just had to PICK UP THE PHONE,
and invite him over?"
The Boyfriend Destroyer: Part II
Note: Originally, I taught this pattern to be used if she
brought up the boyfriend objection when you first asked her out.
With all the other patterns I've shown you, I'd only use it now
if she brought up the boyfriend as part of an objection to
getting physical or after you'd been screwing for a few weeks.
Her: I'm sorry ... I can't keep seeing you. I should have
told you before, but I have a boyfriend. (or, as you
are making out like crazy)
Her: We really shouldn't be doing this. I have a boyfriend
You: But I'll tell you what really fascinates me. It's
like, what's this guy's name you're going out with?
Her: Bill
You: Right, so you're going out with this guy, Bill (Point
to your right palm) ok. And you think he's real cool,
and you're enjoying it and all that ... and then let's
say for whatever reason you break up. You ever BREAK
UP WITH SOMEONE (point to palm) and you go through
that period of mulling it over, or maybe you NOTICE
THE PATTERNS IN HIM THAT RUINED YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP
... or maybe you start to LOOK AT HIM IN A WAY THAT
REALLY MAKES HIM A LOT LESS ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR MIND?
However you would just do that?
I mean it's so weird how the mind does all this stuff,
but what I'm curious about is, what would it be like
for a person if that entire process that usually takes
months, what would it be like if that entire process
were to TAKE PLACE INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers
in her face) in someone's mind? It'd be like (wave
your hand in her face) YOU COULDN'T SEE HIS PICTURE
ANY MORE IN YOUR MIND. Every time you tried it'd be
like something was just wiping it right out. And
that's how you'd know that you'd already started to
FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM, TO MAKE HIM LESS IMPORTANT.
Or you know, like, is there someone you use to date,
but now there way out of your mind ... you haven't
even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? We'll
notice as you take your finger and point, where do you
see there picture?
Right over there? Isn't that interesting? So if you
were to, FORGET ABOUT THIS GUY (hold up your palm,
push it to where she pointed), it'd be like he gets
stuck in the same place. And of course you might think
to yourself, "but I want to put him back".
You might think you might think that ... until you
REALLY NOTICE that from over there, from this
perspective, you really can SEE ALL THE THINGS in him
and about him you don't like ... something that over
time, would really cause you to dump him.
And when that happens it's a little sad, but it's also
a nice thing, because it allows you to CREATE AN
OPENING FOR SOMEONE NEW. (point to yourself) I know
that's how it can GO DOWN WITH ME (point to your
dickee!)
The "You're Fucking With My Mind" Pattern
Note: This pattern should be used if she catches you trying to
run NLP on her or confronts you by saying something like the
title of the pattern, "You're fucking with my mind"! It really
is just a confusion pattern, and works by making what you're
saying so hard to follow that she gets amnesia for her
objection!!!
You: I know it really can seem that way, but I think that's
just because I talk about the way people THINK ABOUT
THINGS ANYWAY ON A REALLY DEEP LEVEL, so because what
I'm describing fits their inner experience so well, it
may seem like I'm fucking with them, but really I'm
just discussing what they know anyway. See, cause
there's what you know, there's what you know you know,
and there's you know, but you don't know you know. So
when the things you know but don't know, become the
things you know you know, you can just THINK THINGS
DIFFERENTLY, you know?
Here's another one if they say something like, "You manipulating
me!"
You: You're right. I am manipulating you, in fact it's my
job to manipulate you to FALL MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME.
And you're job is to see to it that I do it in a way
where you FEEL GREAT, because YOU'RE GETTING
EVERYTHING YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED, AND EVERYTHING YOU'VE
ALWAYS DREAMED OF. Like maybe in those times as a
little girl when you dreamed about the kind of man you
wanted, really wanted to be with (point to yourself)
and the kind of life you wanted to share with him?
And maybe next time you think to yourself on the inside, (use a
whiny tonality) "He's fucking with me ... he's manipulating me",
maybe it's only a sign to GO INTO THE STATE where you REALIZE
THAT WHAT'S IMPORTANT isn't who's doing what to whom ... what's
important is that you really can FEEL THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL
WITH THE KIND OF PERSON YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO FEEL IT WITH.
Can you FEEL THAT (reach out and touch her) is a change you
really want to have?
The Ultimate Fulfillment In A Relationship Pattern
Note: This pattern should be used only after you've been
sleeping with her for a few weeks and really feel like you want
to pursue something long term with her. The pattern works by
eliciting from her highest values in a relationship and then
finding out what is she needs to experience in order to know
those values are being met. This takes out all the guess work
and gives you a means to either make her feel totally fulfilled,
or absolutely violated, whichever serves your aims best. Notice
how you use expressed agreement as a softener. Also notice that
you don't want her to name the qualities she's looking for in a
man, but rather the values she'd get from the relationship; in
other words what a man having those qualities allows her to
experience. Well break this pattern into three phases:
Phase One: Eliciting Her Relationship Values
You: What's important to you in a relationship?
Her: Oh, I don't know ... I guess mutual admiration.
You: Gee ... that is an important one. How do you know when
you have mutual admiration.
Her: Well ... I guess when I see things in him I really
admire, that make me look up to him. And he expresses
to me that there are things about me he really
admires.
You: I agree ... that's a powerful one. Well, what else [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]